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This month, I want to turn my attention towards the field of human
relationships. In particular, so called 'romantic love' relationships. The
comments in this section apply to you if you are now, or have ever been: 1. Married to, or living
with a partner. 2. 'Engaged' to, or
seriously involved with a partner.
If either of these categories apply to you (now, or in the past), then
you have been exposed to the most dangerous con-trick facing normal people
today. I fully expect you to have some difficulty in believing the things I will
tell you in this release, but I warned you some time ago that you would not find
all of the material palatable. As ever I point out that the illsuions which you most
strongly believe are the ones which you will resist exposing. It is easy to
expose the con-tricks which you already suspected.
Prepare for some hard-hitting home truths about relationships. Drifting
Into 'Love'
Non-initiates enter into relationships for many erroneous reasons. For
example: 1. They just 'drift' into relationships. This represents
just another uncontrolled and random area of their lives (see axiom #8). 2. They believe in the myth of 'happy ever after love'. 3. They want sex, and this is the only way they know of
getting it. 4. Their sexual (and biological) desires are overriding
their logic and making them think that they are 'in love'. 5. They want a replacement parent (e.g. Mother, Father). 6. They allow their age to influence their decision,
e.g. they think it is 'about time' that they settled down. 7. They allow others (e.g. parents) to pressurise them
into (say) getting married. 8. They are just plain scared (of being left alone, left on the shelf etc.).
In stark contrast to this rag-bag of silly and erroneous reasons,
open initiates enter into relationships for
one reason only: 1. They perceive that the mutual and honest exchange of
values with their partner will lead to a temporary increase in happiness for
both partners.
Notice the word 'temporary' in
the above statement.
For the initiate, relationships are always
temporary; just as everything else in the universe is of a temporary and
transitory nature. He recognises that relationships - like stars, planets,
countries, cities, governments, houses, cars, and pairs of socks - have a finite
life. He doesn't expect a relationship to last beyond its allotted span, and he
knows that any attempt to force the relationship to go beyond its natural
time-limit would result in unhappiness for both
partners.
This is not a depressing thought. Exactly the opposite. The initiate has
a wonderful, joyous, life enhancing relationship with his partner, and then moves on to
the next different, equally wonderful relationship with a different partner! He
is not some kind of latter-day Casanova, always on the lookout for someone a
little bit better than the partner he has; he simply refuses to stay in a
relationship which has 'ended'. In other words, a relationship which has become a burnt-out, boring, tedious travesty
of the original relationship.
When you become an Inner Circle
Initiate, you enjoy guilt-free,
honest, open, loving, non-manipulative
relationships with your partners. These relationships will last exactly as long
as they last - which is typically between six months and six years. The
relationship ends when one, or both partners cease
to enhance each other's life values;
or it will end when one or both partners start
to inhibit, destroy or harm the other's life values.
A vital point to understand is that the open Initiate is 100% honest with
his current partner. He won't promise that he will stay 'until death do us
part'. He will tell her that he will stay until such a time that they cease to
bring happiness to each other, then he will leave.
In contrast, most non-initiates are con-artists because they will promise
that they will stay with their partners forever (using the weapon of lies) -
even when they know that this is a wholly
unrealisable fantasy, and that there
is only a tiny chance that it will pan-out this way. Programmed
For Reproduction
The Initiate believes that romantic love has, as its primary drive, the
purely biological function of sexual
reproduction. In other words, lurking just below the surface of romantic
love is the not so romantic desire to reproduce.
We are all biologically programmed to reproduce. This is our primary
directive, because without this, all other directives (to eat, to survive) are
pointless.
Now if you were writing a program to 'control' human beings in order to ensure that they reproduced
as often as possible, might I suggest that you would include the following
elements: 1. Ensure that both men and women are fairly obsessed
with sex (they are). 2. Ensure that women feel more romantic and sexy during
ovulation (they do). 3. Invent an overwhelming emotion ('love') which
overrides all logic, rational thought and common sense and ensures that male and
female couple together, no matter what the consequences
and regardless of rational thought. We call this 'being in love'. 4. On the basis of maximising reproduction, ensure that
men want to have sex with as many different
women as possible (they do). 5. Ensure that the man has an orgasm a long time before
the woman, otherwise the woman would have her orgasm, push the man off before he
had his, and thereby prevent conception.
Is it just a staggering coincidence that the program which controls our
sexual and romantic feelings, happens to be exactly
the one which also maximises the chance of reproduction?
I think not.
The male initiate realises that he wants women for many different things.
The female initiate realises that she wants men for many different things.
Initiates do not confuse these things in
their mind, and attempt to lump them all under one heading called 'love'.
This knowledge confers great power on the initiate. It enables them to
focus their energies on their true desires. It prevents them from marrying or
living with a partner who they just want to have sex with. It prevents them from
wasting years of their lives with partners who only fill a tiny range of
their needs. It allows them to recognise the many grades and types of 'love',
and take rational and logical
decisions concerning each one of them.
This knowledge prevents you from marrying for 'spiritual love', and
expecting a super-raunchy sex-life with the same partner. These are not mutually
exclusive, of course, just highly unlikely.
This knowledge prevents you from trying to 'bed' your close friends and
associates, when this could result in the loss of more valuable aspects of these
relationships.
Here are just a few of the things which a man
might want from a woman: 1. 'Spiritual' or 'true' love (as distinguished from
sexual infatuation). 2. Companionship to avoid loneliness. 3.
Sex with no strings attached. 4. Friendship. 5. Someone to care for. 6. Someone to care for him. 7. Someone to boost his ego and make him feel good. 8.
A house-keeper/servant. 9. An attractive escort. 10. A mother for his children. 11. A wife. 12. Someone to dominate.
13. Someone to dominate him.
14. A partner to share his hopes, fears, values, beliefs
and ambitions.
Of course, women have an almost identical list of things they want from
men. I won't rewrite the above list again, as it takes too much space. All you
have to do is change #8 to 'an odd-job-man, car mechanic and gardener', #10 to
'A father for her children' and #11 to 'A husband'.
This is quite a list isn't it? Yet the average person does not even
realise that they require many of these things! Instead, they are happy to go
'doe-eyed' and 'fall in love' and marry a person who fills one, or perhaps two
of the above list. In many cases, a man will 'fall in love' because he wants sex
- and be totally unaware (as the
sheep nearly always are) of exactly what he is allowing to happen to him.
Remember the Inner Circle axiom that the uninitiated masses almost never know
their true reason for doing anything - they bumble along blindly driven by
whims.
Initiates recognise that they have many
different needs concerning relationships. They do not expect to find all of
these things in one partner. In fact, they would be amazed and startled if they
were to discover a person who filled more than three or four of these needs.
The result is this:
Male initiates have many different women for different things. He might
choose one or more women for sex, a different woman for intellectual
discussions, a different woman again to be the mother of his children, and so
on. Of course there will be much overlap between these women, and ideally
it would be perfect if he could find one woman to fill most of his needs, but he
knows that he lives in a real world, with real people, and he knows that
statistically it is most unlikely
that he will find one woman to fill half of his needs, let alone all of them.
Female initiates have many different men for different things. She might
choose one or more men for sex, a different man for intellectual discussions, a
different man again to be the father of her children, and so on. Of course there
will be much overlap between these men, and ideally
it would be perfect if she could find one man to fill most of her needs, but she
knows that she lives in the real world, with real people, and she knows that
statistically it is most unlikely
that she will find one man to fill half of her needs, let alone all of them.
Remember, I am talking about initiates
here, not sheep.
If an initiate desires a house-keeper/servant, then he will employ
one, not marry one! If he desires great sex with many different partners, then
he will seek this out, and not marry the first girl who agrees to go to bed with
him! If a woman desires a charming, handsome escort then she will have an array
of men who are willing to fill this desire. She will not marry the first
sweet-talking bozo she stumbles across!
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